IS PERFECTION A THING?
I would like to say no… but there is always that element that we want everything to be perfect. It’s something you hear in everyday life to have the perfect Instagram feed, perfect blog, perfect house, perfect relationship, or perfect life. When everything is hashtagged with #goals, no wonder there is an underlying aspect that everything needs to be perfect.
This cannot be a healthy view to take. Perfection is an idea in our own minds, it’s subjective which leaves it open to interpretation, and one person’s idea of perfection will not be the same as somebody else’s. If anything is not perfect then it can leave people feeling unworthy and social media’s highlight reel cannot be helping this idea for perfection. Especially those Instagram worthy household photos- which in reality have only been set up for the ‘gram then it is back to the ‘normal’ busy mess that most households live in.
Once I have an idea of wanting something to be perfect, something else in my life won’t be, so there will always be this circle of un-fulfilment that I just can’t get out off. I want my life to bring me the best it can, but I think it is also important to remember that things can go wrong and that is ok too.
I am the worst for feeling like a failure, but without those failures, I will never know when I have progressed in something and working towards my ‘idea of perfection’. I think it is great to have goals that I want to hit, but the journey I take to get there does not have to be perfect. You definitely learn more when that journey isn’t easy and you can take those hurdles as life experiences to improve next time.
Unfortunately, I always have this need to be good at something straight away. And if I am not then I think I have failed already. I need to remember that because I am good at something now, doesn’t mean I was always good at it. For example, I sucked at writing before I started a blog, I struggled with structure and putting my thoughts on paper- even though I still struggle at times with this, I have improved over time because I have persevered to get better because I enjoy blogging and want to get better at it. I need to just have that resilience for other aspects of my life that I may not enjoy but are essential to be able to accomplish my next goal.
I think it is important that I reframe from the idea of ‘perfection’ because does it really exist? Instead, I am going to focus on my achievements. These are the goals that I want to set myself so that I don't have any regrets when I am older. I do want to accomplish many things in my life (starting with buying my first house) and I am going to work hard to get what I want. But once I get those accomplishments I need to celebrate my success and the hours that I have put in to make it happen and not focus on the fact that it might not be perfect (my house does NOT have to be Instagram/Pinterest worthy) I will be proud of what I have and not what I 'wish' it was like. I think that diminishes the amount of hard work that I actually have put into whatever it is that I wanted to accomplish.
I’m going to try to stop setting myself up for failure and focus on my achievements- especially with my conscious need to have the perfect Instagram theme instead I will celebrate how far my photography has improved. Get the idea?